As one moves from habitual suppression to learning to express, they must wrestle with not only the new found action of emotional expression, as also to ensure they hit the ideal medium. From which one expresses maturely and healthily to the context of what they have allowed themselves to feel, to blatantly blaming the external and ‘expressing’ against it.
Healthy expression can look to be a physiological response in crying (see yesterday’s post), or within the smile placed upon the face. Healthy expression can be transferred to an action, from art to boxing. It is to release that energy-in-motion, and to let it go.
Reaction is less ideal. Reaction is an automatic response, the same way the body will pull your hand from a hot stove, the emotional nervous system (if you will), will respond with a pre-determined method of expressing (or lack thereof) when presented with an emotion. The same way you know the reflex kicked in after it has already done so, the same applies with these emotional reflexes (or reactions). Channel the energy in a healthy manner, through which you act upon it. Rather than re-act from it.
Or else the chaos that ensues with words spoken and actions taken from the place of a re-action or reflex, provide ample potential to be utterly devastating to the clear and calm persona after it has released the emotion and realised what the reflex was that had just occurred. The forever sung:
“Why on earth was I so mad?”
