Those that speak of ‘finding’ themselves hold zero notion of what ‘themselves’ there is to find. That instead, we make ourselves. It is our decision to the highest degree, this is beyond the scope of finding likes and dislikes. Looking at the type of person, the character, the personality, the persona, that is not found, it is forged.

Forge it well. Allow yourself to do things you’ve never done before, look at what your most ideal self would be, and begin feeling into that, acting it out until you make it. There is a level faking until making that goes into all things. Rather than internally discussing in “I’m trying to change to xyz” or “I’m trying to be more confident”. Switch it. Make it irrefutable. Staple it to your persona and act accordingly.

“I act confident in all that I do.”

“I do not drink.”

Consistently act out these identity shifts, and do so with zero thought to progress, continue to act from the persona of the person you’d like to be.

If in a couple months to years you love and accept yourself and see room for improvement, then go for it, change again and do it. Change change change change. Fluid, liquid, an ever-changing storm of consciousness. Change is the obstacle so often fought against, for fear of the unknown that comes with change. Change is your weapon, the forger of self, and ultimately your responsibility.

Do right with it. Change and continue to do so, there is always room for improvement.

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