When you construct standards for a partner, stick to them in the majority. The you that designed these standards did so while lacking the duress that is limerence and strong inclinations for such relationships. The less clouded the vision when making the decision, the more likely it is to be the proper decision to follow. It is then in the moments when we are faced with upholding those previous decisions that one must train themselves to ensure they follow through. The cloudy mind can justify almost all courses of action, and for that tendency alone it is worthwhile to pre-make the decisions or at least the framework for those decisions before being placed in a context where the mind is clouded or too occupied to decide. If you already have a plan for a certain occurrence, then jumping straight into autopilot based from that pre-planning is far better than squandering with half thoughts attempting to make a plan in the spur of the moment.

As with all things, there is a moderation. The use of autopilot is one of those.

Use discernment.

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