We design ‘standards’ to reconcile a filter through which we can choose a mate. A person of whom is to provide us companionship throughout this journey of life, a decision to be taken heavily as such it can greatly affect the quality of life. Interestingly, quality of life in and of itself can be seen as largely built on the comparison against other lives around us, with a minority share falling to the basic tenets of human survival of: food, water, sleep, shelter, and warmth (which can fall under clothing or adequate shelter).
Filters operate within us as an efficiency and optimization process, through which the billions of stimuli we are exposed to in every moment can be sorted on the macro scale as to what we (the brain) can provide more thought to, or as to leave it as it is. Paying zero attention to the mates of whom express a trait that is filtered against, lack of criteria or the fulfillment of an anti-standard.
For if we were to carefully deconstruct each and every potential human as a potential mate, then a significant portion of the glucose fuel consumed each day would be burnt in the process, leaving little time and energy to focus elsewhere. Thus, filters provide a useful mean to isolating the signal from the noise. Signal being an indicator of the favorable direction in which we wish to take, and noise being all else that prevents, obscures, and otherwise provides zero help to the direction in question.
Filters also create bias, this bias must be tested and acknowledged, every once in a while one must test their filters, adjust their paradigm, see if there is anything they are missing, or automatically obscuring that could be signal. To do this, sit with yourself and begin to analyze and take note of every thing, acknowledging its existence and providing thought to any prompts that appear when holding it in focus. It may be a lengthy process and it is well worth the time to ensure properly calibrated filters, as opposed to the downfall that would ensue otherwise.
Test your perceptions, find the signal, and meditate.
