It’s a process. The cyclical nature of the universe ensures the repetition of lessons and stimuli until you grow. However long that may take is purely up to you. Take each step and moment as it is, there is little to be gained and so much more to be lost in fighting the present. It is all a gift, whether you can perceive it as so is another matter altogether.
Use your intuition such as the burning torch through the darkest of caves. Where you lack judgement and innerstanding, your intuition applies infinitesimally better. Challenge your rationalizations, especially when they rationalize for something that if were so good, would require zero rationalization at all. Guard your principles just as they slice through the noise that threatens to corrupt and overwhelm you.
Clarity comes from asking difficult questions, with the full intention of knowing the answer. You can stomach far more than once thought capable. In this process, revel in the beauty that comes from overcoming obstacles. The wise man expects peace and is prepared for war. What you actively seek, you shall find. Such is the nature of this God-given realm.
Recognize the external as an internal reflection of the self, of the multitude of facets that are operated by God. The universe, however it is wished to be defined. The very probabilistic nature of the universe applies in the same stance, the butterfly effect applies to the actions, habits, and thoughts you present to this external too.
Use discernment.