To those for whom seek their ideal partner for this lifetime. First, ask yourself if such craving and desire is borne of escapism. A partner is only to accentuate your life, less to become the center of it. Construct a lifestyle and existence to which is progressing well enough to have room for a partner.

Once this is as is, and you are ready to search for a partner… intend it. Fill out a list of non-negotiables and standards for your most ideal partner. This is to act as your filter, separate severity of standards as you please (non-negotiable, nice-to-have, unrealistic-and-would-be-nice) and use this to do just that: filter. As you meet new people and potential partners, begin to match them against each point on that list, if they violate a non-negotiable… then find the love you have for yourself and move on.

This decision is one to take heavily, a filter provides the necessary justification to avoid the romanticizing trap of idealizing the notion of someone instead of seeing who they truly are. You are better than that, for you use discernment.

Use it well and wisely.

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